My Mom lives VERY close to me here, it had been the plan. She is moving into a new stage of aging and I don’t like what I see. And, OK before you all get all high and mighty, yes I love her, but I have to say a couple of things. So….please don’t email me all about HOW great it all was with your XVZ… Because, REALLY it’s NOT all sunshine and roses. Plus, that’s the reason you’ve not heard anything about her for YEARS. It’s NOW my turn. 

And maybe it’s not Mom I’m thinking about, maybe it’s myself and HOW I want this to all go down when I’m her age.

Mom’s 88 years old and my Dad passed in 1997. So being alone in not new to her or helping her is not new to me. But it is VERY stressful. Mom has never been a glass half full person. I have gotten services started and with their help, a prayer and maybe a little luck I can get through this. Husband and I left the other day and he said rubbing my back, “I think your angel winds are just about ready to pop.”

But, can “I” do that, can I turn my life, my CONTROL over to another? I really don’t think I can, but I also know I will HAVE to. So, as with everything I’ve started a list. Nothing in the world can make me happier than a list. That…plus writing here, to the blank unseen. What I see her need or do, what I want different and why. Every little thing I see is written down.

1. MOVE to the kids: Husband keeps saying, “When we get older.” well, yes but how old? I’m going to need a support system not just the kids and grands.  I need friends, church, a bit of a social life and how long do you wait to go start that process all over again?
2. ALWAYS tell the TRUTH: health issues suck, I know they suck, but if you have burning when you potty, UTI, tell me and we will get drugs to help you.
3. LAUGH, out loud and strong: Yes, it’s all serious, but we all know going into live, we are going to die in the long run. And baby….I want mine to be a party.

I’m going to let that be… for today I’m heading for a cup of coffee and hopefully a little nap, then the fun can start again.  Bless us all, PLEASE only Kindness in comments.

Beth Ann

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